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Saying No
Employee
Executive

How to say no to your boss without damaging the relationship

Your manager keeps adding work and you are at capacity.

Strategy

Never say a flat no. Say yes to the decision and hand it back with a tradeoff. Make the cost visible so the priority call sits where it belongs.

I can take this on. Here is what it costs. Right now I am carrying the migration and the audit prep, both due the 30th. Adding this means one of them slips by about a week. Which one do you want me to move?

If they push back

If they say all three have to land: "Then I need either two more weeks on the audit or someone on the migration. Which is easier to get?"

What not to say

  • I am completely swamped
  • That is not my job
  • I guess I can try
  • Nobody understands how much I am carrying

Follow-up

Confirming what we landed on: audit prep moves to the 6th, migration and the new request hold the 30th. I will update the tracker.

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