Repairing a Rift
Not applicable
Warm
Reconnecting with a colleague after a blowup
You lost your temper with a coworker and the relationship has been cold since.
Strategy
Own your part without conditions. No but, no context, no scoreboard. Then ask for what a reset would take from you.
I want to clear the air about last Thursday. I raised my voice in that meeting. That was on me, and it was not okay regardless of where we landed on the decision. I would like us to be able to work together well. What would you need from me for that?
If they push back
If they are not ready: "That is fair. I am not asking you to be fine with it today. The offer stands whenever you want to pick it up."
What not to say
- I am sorry you took it that way
- I only reacted because you
- We were both at fault
- Can we just move past this
Follow-up
Thanks for meeting me. Taking your point about looping you in before I escalate — that starts now.